Breast is Best??? – My Breastfeeding Story

I’ve been wanting to share my breastfeeding experience for a while, but I’m very aware that it’s a unique set of circumstances and therefore doesn’t really apply to the majority of mothers. It does however, apply to a minority of women like myself who tried and failed, so I’m sharing it all the same.  Read More


That Friday Feeling

Good morning you lovely lot. Hope you all have that Friday Feeling (unless of course you’re working all weekend in which case may God have mercy on your soul).

I’m full of love and happiness today which as late is a rare occurrence so I am lapping it up in all its yummy goodness, and thought I’d take the opportunity to share all of the lovely things that have made me smile over the last week. Read More

Asking For Support

Good morning lovelies!

I hope you are all well and enjoyed the long weekend for those of you who were lucky enough to have the time off.

So I’ve done it. I’ve created my YOUTUBE channel and I’ve uploaded a few videos. So far they cover all things related to Matthew and his sensory challenges, as well as the latest update being about my Mental Health. Read More

Thank Goodness For Audiobooks

I recently told you all about reading “Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine”, whereby I managed to read this marvellous book from start to finish in a few days. I cannot stress enough how much of an anomaly this actually is. I have mountains of beautiful books that I bought with every intention of jumping into as soon as they arrived, only to have them become a permanent ornamental fixture in my home.

However, as I’ve mentioned before I am subscribed to Amazon Audible and this is how I get my literary fix. I have a library full of lovely books that I’ve collected over the last year or so and I tap into them whenever I’m able to, which usually ends up after midnight while i’m lying next to my snoring husband and my little boy is sound asleep in bed.

It’s been a life saver and I don’t say that lightly.

There have been many moments over the last year where I have felt so overwhelmed and exhausted from life that the only thing getting me through those last hours of my day was knowing I was going to have some downtime listening to some of my favourite authors.

Now, I’m a mum so it should be of no surprise that a lot of my book choices are ones written by other mums alike. However, I tend to purchase the audiobook along with the actual hard copy so that if I do get the time to actually physically read the written words then I can. I mean there’s honestly nothing better than holding a book in your hands, do you not agree?

These are just some of the books in my library at the minute:

So if you’re like me and you don’t always have the time to sit down and read a book, but still have the desire to delve into the words of your favourite authors, you should definitely give Amazon Audible a go. You can even get a free trial to see how you like it, and if you’re anything like me you will wonder how you ever got by without it.

D x

5 Things New Mums Don’t Tell You

Before becoming a mum I was under no illusion of how difficult the task would be. The lack of sleep, the extra cost involved, the toll it takes on your body to name but a few.

These things I was well aware of and more than prepared for. However, what I didn’t know in more detail is the absolute horror (this is the only word i can use to describe it) of pain, hormone imbalance and everything else that comes directly during and after you’ve birthed your babe into the world.

So in a bid to clear this up and properly prepare new mums-to-be I wanted to share my experience of the 5 worst things about labouring and everything afterwards, that NOBODY told me about.

  1. Contractions are not in any way shape or form like period cramp. Don’t believe anyone who tells you this. It’s nonsense. They are so intense and feel like an alien is inside your abdomen rummaging about and trying to escape through your lower back. Don’t be a hero… Take the pain relief!  maxresdefault
  2. It’s not all over once you’ve pushed the baby out. Movies and TV shows are notorious for showing this as the final part of labour and it’s not. You still have to deliver the placenta, which if your lucky takes a jab and a few pushes and pulls from your midwife. However, if you’re not so lucky (like me), it can result in an hour long battle between you and a gynaecological consultant who literally scrapes your placenta from the walls of your uterus using her entire hand. Yes… HAND!!! All this before giving up and taking you to theatre where she will eventually give you a spinal block before trying all over again. pos_ch19_f003
  3. There will be approximately 15 or so people who see your vagina, examine your vagina and have their hands inside your vagina from the start of your labour to the moment your are discharged. Be prepared, cause that’s a lot of eyes on your lady parts! Large-crowd-of-people-014
  4. Your hormones don’t go back to normal as soon as you’ve given birth. In fact I’d go so far as to say they will get worse. You will feel sad, angry and happy all at once. You will want to scream and run away, all the while hating yourself for having these thoughts. It is a roller-coaster and you have to understand that for the most part these feelings will subside. But if they don’t then you need to ask for help and there is no shame in that. I needed help. Don’t feel bad if you do too. roller-coaster
  5. Lastly… and for me this is the big one. Pack a box of natural laxatives in your hospital bag, because I am not exaggerating when I say that the first post-birth poo if life changing. This might sound hilarious and just utterly ridiculous, but I am not lying. I remember mine like it was yesterday and I spent an hour and a half on the toilet crying in agony over it. I’d even go so far as to say I would have rather given birth again than have to endure the pain of the first post-partum-poo! It was horrendous. I cannot stress this enough. Get yourself on the prune juice, the laxatives and drink as much coffee as you can handle, cause the alternative is not pretty! kabızlık

So that’s my advice lovelies. Obviously I know that every woman’s experience is different and therefore a lot of this might not apply to you, but after speaking to other women in my life after I gave birth, it seems there was a consensus among us that these things we just weren’t properly equipped to deal with. Sharing’s caring and all that jazz, and if you’re pregnant right now and I’ve scared the life out of you I really do apologise. Just remember this, I would do it all over again 100 times and more for my boy. Holding them in your arms at the end of it all is the best reward you could ever receive for enduring all of the aforementioned torture.

D x