How do you do it???

How do you do it???

What happens on those down days? How do your drag yourself out of the pits of darkness?

Oftentimes when I’m feeling particularly low and alone in my thoughts, I wonder how other people cope with feeling that way. I have a few little tricks that work for me, and they all pretty much involve getting down on the floor and playing with my son. But I wonder how other people help themselves. Do they have people they can talk to? Do they allow themselves the time to wallow in their deep, sunken thoughts and come out of it in their own time. I wonder.

Writing has definitely been a massive help in my quest for a level head and a happy heart. It has allowed all of the crazy and often irrational thoughts to come out and ultimately be released from my overflowing brain. I don’t always share those thoughts… in fact most of them will remain safely tucked away within the confines of my notebook. But it does help me. Massively in fact.

I also find that immersing myself in a good and thought provoking book is good therapy. This doesn’t have to be any specific genre… just something that speaks to me. Right now I’m enjoying The Life Changing Magic of Tidying. This might be funny to be some people but it’s providing me with the tools I need to remove the clutter from my home as well as my head.

Another book that I reach for is Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur. I can’t recommend this book enough. No matter how I’m feeling, whether that be sad, lonely, overwhelmed… The words written on these pages are so cathartic. Even other worldly.

Music as well. What a wonderful joy it is to have this amazing tool at our disposal. I can simply “ask Alexa” and she will deliver any and every song I need to hear at that moment. You might be interested to hear that my ultimate song at this moment is Stormzy, ‘Blinded By Your Grace’. If you haven’t heard then get yourself over to Spotify and give it a listen! Thank me later!

Anyway, these are just some thoughts I’ve been having on this Monday morning. Carry on.




  1. 26th February 2018 / 2:05 pm

    Interesting read. Personally I find writing or even reading other people’s experiences with mental illness to be quite cathartic – it’s sometimes helpful knowing you’re not alone in your struggle 🙂

  2. pearlsandgrit
    26th February 2018 / 7:21 pm

    It’s so important to have the little things to help catapault oneself through a difficult moment. Reset buttons are indespensible!

  3. 27th February 2018 / 1:41 pm

    I’m really glad that you find writing to be cathartic. Sometimes, I focus on getting on one little thing done during the day, however small that might be. It might be to empty the dishwasher and if I get to do anything, then whoop….it’s a bonus, but I make sure that I don’t set myself up to fail with expecting too much of myself. And also to know that the low days do pass…..and that you re-emerge into that happier place. Hugs xx

    • 27th February 2018 / 2:03 pm

      Thank you for the lovely comment. Definitely taking each day at a time and celebrating every victory, big or small. 🧡 x

  4. 2nd March 2018 / 1:41 pm

    I totally get where you’re coming from, on my bads days I have to force myself to remember that I have to be strong for my boy. Music and writing really help me unload my mind.

    • 2nd March 2018 / 1:42 pm

      It’s hard isn’t it. That’s great that you have your own form of therapy to help you get through your bad days. Thanks for taking the time to read. 🙂 x

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